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Number of posts : 940 Points : 1946 Registration date : 2008-04-02
| Subject: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Mon Jul 14, 2008 12:57 am | |
| Posted on Sat, Jul. 12, 2008
BY TAYLOR BARNES tbarnes@MiamiHerald.com
When Broward County's only certified domestic violence shelter, Women in Distress, opened in 1974, its sole purpose was to offer beds to women. Now, shelter leaders say they see up to 15 men a year who need a safe place from domestic violence.
''Despite our name, we serve both men and women, and increasingly same-sex partners,'' said Mary Riedel, shelter president.
As shown by the shots fired earlier this week at Fort Lauderdale Police Chief Frank Adderley by his wife, men can be the targets of domestic violence, a crime long associated with female victims.
An estimated 5 percent of reported domestic violence victims nationwide are men, said Lt. Sherry Schlueter, who leads the Special Victims and Family Crimes section at the Broward Sheriff's Office -- where serious felony-level cases are handled.
UNKNOWN VICTIMS
But Schlueter said she believes many more males are victims but are ''disinclined'' to report relationship violence in part because of ``the perception of victimization.''
Some of the South Florida numbers back that assertion. From 2003 to 2008, 642 men reported domestic violence to Schlueter's office compared to 1,532 women. In all years, the majority of domestic violence cases against a given gender were from an offender of the opposite sex.
The total number of men reporting domestic violence grew each year from 2003 to 2007, which the office said could be due in part to an expansion of the sheriff's jurisdiction.
The Lodge, a domestic violence shelter with 40 beds in Miami-Dade County, also offers shelter to male victims, said Executive Director Angela Diaz-Vidaillet.
Shelters in Miami-Dade -- Safespace and The Lodge -- have names that do not reflect the gender of the majority of domestic violence victims. Diaz-Vidaillet said that in 2004, when The Lodge was set to open, founders considered calling it ``The Women's Lodge.''
''However, we don't only serve women, so we couldn't possibly give it that name,'' she said.
Of violent crimes in general, Schlueter said, the aggressors are not just men. ``We are seeing a rise in violence perpetrated by females.''
Sherrie Schwab, chief operating officer of Women in Distress, says women are capable of being as violent as men even without a weapon. ''You don't need a gun to be violent. Small women can be very violent,'' she said.
Male victims of domestic violence seek both emergency lodging and outreach services. In the second half of 2007, the most recent period for which statistics are available, 4,020 men statewide used telephone counseling for domestic violence, compared with 52,595 women, according to the Florida Department of Children & Families.
''It was strange for me when I saw my first male victim,'' Schwab said, because the complaints he made sounded just like ones she had heard from women for years. ``It was just verbatim.''
Abuse occurs as frequently in same-sex relationships as heterosexual ones, said Brenda Levine, who directs outreach services for Women in Distress.
Within the past few weeks, the agency coordinated emergency shelter for a man who was ''quite physically abused'' by his male partner, according to Riedel, who did not disclose further details of the case for confidentiality reasons.
SEPARATED
Though men contact Women in Distress, the organization does not house them alongside female victims. About five years ago, Women in Distress started partnering with local hotels and motels to provide rooms for women when they ran out of beds in the main buildings and for men who could not be housed alongside women.
Before the partnership, male victims of domestic violence stayed in Salvation Army facilities or homeless shelters, Riedel said.
Schwab said the shelter at Women in Distress is nearly always full. ''Given where we live, it can be hard at times to get a free hotel room,'' she said, adding that demand for emergency housing is greater than their supply.
``We can't meet the needs of our community.'' | |
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Mon Jul 14, 2008 9:46 am | |
| Funny you posted this today...because I saw a news paper cliping that stated "My wife beats me " in blog today....damn it ...let me go see if I can find it. | |
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
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heru1976
Number of posts : 478 Location : Florida My Mood : Points : 2 Registration date : 2008-04-01
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Mon Jul 14, 2008 12:03 pm | |
| Damn Ghanian women be beating their wives. That's not good but he should remove himself from that situation. | |
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heru1976
Number of posts : 478 Location : Florida My Mood : Points : 2 Registration date : 2008-04-01
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Mon Jul 14, 2008 12:04 pm | |
| I live not too far from where the Police officer and his wife lives. When I saw it on the local news I was shocked and appalled that this woman will do this but then again we don't know what he did to her for her to do this. | |
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Traveller
Number of posts : 1145 Points : 562 Registration date : 2008-04-25
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Mon Jul 14, 2008 9:11 pm | |
| - heru1976 wrote:
- I live not too far from where the Police officer and his wife lives. When I saw it on the local news I was shocked and appalled that this woman will do this but then again we don't know what he did to her for her to do this.
Domestic violence is never justified. :) | |
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Philomath
Number of posts : 306 Age : 43 Location : Houston,Texas Say Whatever : Hard work plus intelligent minus foolishness is equal to success. My Mood : Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:18 am | |
| Hell no, I can NEVER be with a woman who can beat me. It is a big disgrace and the man will never have respect. Abusive women are more controlling then any other woman or even abusive man. The first beating given to me by my wife will be enough for me to get out of that relationship. | |
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LovinLiberia
Number of posts : 319 Age : 40 Location : Houston, Texas Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:20 am | |
| Why are you acting all macho now? You didn't say all this last night. | |
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
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Philomath
Number of posts : 306 Age : 43 Location : Houston,Texas Say Whatever : Hard work plus intelligent minus foolishness is equal to success. My Mood : Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:29 am | |
| There is no macho acting going on. You know how this topic is far from lastnight. | |
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candygirl Admin
Number of posts : 5916 Location : Monrovia, Liberia Say Whatever : Laughter is the best medicine My Mood : Points : 2260 Registration date : 2008-03-31
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LovinLiberia
Number of posts : 319 Age : 40 Location : Houston, Texas Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
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Philomath
Number of posts : 306 Age : 43 Location : Houston,Texas Say Whatever : Hard work plus intelligent minus foolishness is equal to success. My Mood : Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
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rberry
Number of posts : 437 Points : 197 Registration date : 2008-04-25
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:59 am | |
| About 19 years ago, or as we say back in the day in Cali, I had a Liberian woman who was extremely abusive to poor Rufus... At times when I left work on Fridays and got home Sundays evening, she would cuss me and my entire generation from head to toes. | |
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candygirl Admin
Number of posts : 5916 Location : Monrovia, Liberia Say Whatever : Laughter is the best medicine My Mood : Points : 2260 Registration date : 2008-03-31
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:08 am | |
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rberry
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| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:16 am | |
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:17 am | |
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candygirl Admin
Number of posts : 5916 Location : Monrovia, Liberia Say Whatever : Laughter is the best medicine My Mood : Points : 2260 Registration date : 2008-03-31
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:22 am | |
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Philomath
Number of posts : 306 Age : 43 Location : Houston,Texas Say Whatever : Hard work plus intelligent minus foolishness is equal to success. My Mood : Points : 0 Registration date : 2008-07-14
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:27 am | |
| - rberry wrote:
- About 19 years ago, or as we say back in the day in Cali, I had a Liberian woman who was extremely abusive to poor Rufus... At times when I left work on Fridays and got home Sundays evening, she would cuss me and my entire generation from head to toes.
Rufus, don't see something different within the days? why should leave work on a friday and get home on a sunday evening? If it is how that went, then you are not poor Rufus. | |
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rberry
Number of posts : 437 Points : 197 Registration date : 2008-04-25
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heru1976
Number of posts : 478 Location : Florida My Mood : Points : 2 Registration date : 2008-04-01
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 1:56 am | |
| - Traveller wrote:
- heru1976 wrote:
- I live not too far from where the Police officer and his wife lives. When I saw it on the local news I was shocked and appalled that this woman will do this but then again we don't know what he did to her for her to do this.
Domestic violence is never justified. :) No, I am not trying to justified anything. I am just saying we don't know what that man did to that woman to possess her to get a gun and shoot at him. So there are two sides to every story. Some women do not know how to deal with certain things and the stress can cause them to do anything. | |
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Traveller
Number of posts : 1145 Points : 562 Registration date : 2008-04-25
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 2:02 am | |
| - heru1976 wrote:
- Traveller wrote:
- heru1976 wrote:
- I live not too far from where the Police officer and his wife lives. When I saw it on the local news I was shocked and appalled that this woman will do this but then again we don't know what he did to her for her to do this.
Domestic violence is never justified. :) No, I am not trying to justified anything. I am just saying we don't know what that man did to that woman to possess her to get a gun and shoot at him. So there are two sides to every story. Some women do not know how to deal with certain things and the stress can cause them to do anything. I'm just messing wit ya. Me pah, my wife lor beat me every Thursday at 8:30pm. :) | |
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Geyla Queen Admin
Number of posts : 6443 Age : 46 Location : Atlanta, GA Say Whatever : I'm still holding on. My Mood : Points : 4301 Registration date : 2008-03-28
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 2:05 am | |
| - Philomath wrote:
- rberry wrote:
- About 19 years ago, or as we say back in the day in Cali, I had a Liberian woman who was extremely abusive to poor Rufus... At times when I left work on Fridays and got home Sundays evening, she would cuss me and my entire generation from head to toes.
Rufus, don't see something different within the days? why should leave work on a friday and get home on a sunday evening? If it is how that went, then you are not poor Rufus. Rufus
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heru1976
Number of posts : 478 Location : Florida My Mood : Points : 2 Registration date : 2008-04-01
| Subject: Re: More Men Seeking To Escape Abusive Relationships Tue Jul 15, 2008 2:05 am | |
| - Traveller wrote:
- heru1976 wrote:
- Traveller wrote:
- heru1976 wrote:
- I live not too far from where the Police officer and his wife lives. When I saw it on the local news I was shocked and appalled that this woman will do this but then again we don't know what he did to her for her to do this.
Domestic violence is never justified. :) No, I am not trying to justified anything. I am just saying we don't know what that man did to that woman to possess her to get a gun and shoot at him. So there are two sides to every story. Some women do not know how to deal with certain things and the stress can cause them to do anything. I'm just messing wit ya. Me pah, my wife lor beat me every Thursday at 8:30pm. :) You are so crazy. You sound like you can enjoy it. | |
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