Is marriage all about children?

what do you think????

is it a MUST to have children when you get married?

should you or shouldnt you?

if you do, how many?

Don't think its a must for everyone. I know for my wife and I, havnig children was very important.

candygirl wrote:

what do you think????

is it a MUST to have children when you get married?

should you or shouldnt you?

if you do, how many?

Not everyone can paint a Sistine Chapel or carve a sculpure of David, so for the most part your path to immortality lies in producing offspring. That's my two cents.

SirDurendal wrote:

...............your path to immortality lies in producing offspring......

Well said!

No it's not. If children are the only driving force for a marraige, then that's not an authentic marriage.
Plenty people just living as roomates.

Makes me wonder sometimes why some poeple force this marraige thing when the other person is just there like decoration. Better to stay single. Being single is not a sin.

Hell, no! children are just a product of marriage.

DSP wrote:

No it's not. If children are the only driving force for a marraige, then that's not an authentic marriage................

Seems I misunderstood the original question. I am only suggesting that we always wanted kids not that kids were the driving force behind our getting married.

candygirl wrote:

what do you think????

is it a MUST to have children when you get married?

should you or shouldnt you?

if you do, how many?

It is not a MUST to have kids upon your marriage. Children are blessing from God. If you are bless to have one, two or even more; be appreciative to God for what is given you. If the woman feel that her womb is fertile and they do not one many kids, they know how to solve that problem. If they are not bless to have a kid, let them keep it in prayers and move on with their lives or adopt a child or children.

I prefer at most four kids.

so, would you think it wrong if a couple decided not to have a child?

african couple now....

waht are your views on adoption?

i dont think its wrong if a couple decide not to have kids. thats their decision and i have no problem with adoption provided you'll love that kid as much as you would ur own.

LadyFlo wrote:

i dont think its wrong if a couple decide not to have kids. thats their decision and i have no problem with adoption provided you'll love that kid as much as you would ur own.

True, a lady at my church adopted a few years ago, not that she couldn't have any kids or that she didn't have any or her own already, but she said she just didn't want to go through the labor process anymore. Everybody has different reason....and thank God there are options out there these days.

Another one of my girlfriends is planning on adopting because she has 3 boys and don't want to take the chance or having another boy....so she and her husband are going to adobt a little girl...she wants another girl in the house bad way

Another story, one of my friends Aunty got married to a man that made it CLEAR that he did not want to have any kids (and maybe she didn't want any at first too who knows)....but now she want to have a child and of course he does not....this this is causing HUGE confusion in their house oh. They have been married for YEARS too....I need to find out what's going on with that situation...with my nosy self

candygirl wrote:

what do you think????

is it a MUST to have children when you get married?

should you or shouldnt you?

if you do, how many?

It's not a MUST and everybody situation is different.

Maybe both already have kids from other relationships and don't feel the need to reproduce "together" since the already have.

Having a child is must for Isaac and I

It's something I've always wanted, but I wanted to be married before I have kids...to me there is a differance between a "baby daddy" and a "ex husband" that's just me though.

In this day and age 2-3 kids is ideal.

candygirl wrote:

so, would you think it wrong if a couple decided not to have a child?

african couple now....

waht are your views on adoption?

No, if Mr. & Mrs. African Couple decide not to have a child, who in this world hasthe right to question them? They will simply give you LIB thick black plastic bag name (M.Y.B).

Adoption is good if both parties decide to get involve in it from the heart. It is good to adopt a child legally, not the Liberian way. Like taking a child from some relative or sending for a child from the rural to live with you. A legal adoption is less risky for the child then come live with me adoption.

You know it is not a must to have children when you are married but a lot of people don't see it that way. It should be discussed before you even get married what the both of you want. My husband and I decided to wait until I was done with school to have children. Some of his family members have been talking about us having children from the first day we got married. Most Africans believe that if you don't have children then something must be wrong.

heru1976 wrote:

You know it is not a must to have children when you are married but a lot of people don't see it that way. It should be discussed before you even get married what the both of you want. My husband and I decided to wait until I was done with school to have children. Some of his family members have been talking about us having children from the first day we got married. Most Africans believe that if you don't have children then something must be wrong.

, I know my parents can be like "WHEN NIKKI WHEN!!", because BOTH of my sibling who are younger than I have children already.

My brother 26 has 2 boys and my little sister 21 has a daughter.

rberry wrote:

............. we agreed that I would go to Liberia to adopt two or three kids. ................

What age range might you guys adopt?

bellah wrote:

Marriage is about two persons deciding to live together forever and forever. To be happy and in bad times to appreciate it each other.........

: really

Geyla Queen wrote:

bellah wrote:

Marriage is about two persons deciding to live together forever and forever. To be happy and in bad times to appreciate it each other.........

: really

LOL!!!!

ROFL!!!!

Don't back down now